You may be asking “we’ve done our homework and made our appointments. Now what?”
And I say “great question!”
The next step might be the most important, who are you going to bring to your appointments to help choose your wedding dress?
I know a lot of brides have always imagined having their mom, sisters, grandma, his mom, his sisters, his grandma and all 25 of her bridesmaids come to ooohhh and aaaahhh over how beautiful she is in all of the gowns she tries on. It sounds like a fun little party. Something you will look back on with fond memories.
How about we look at this bride’s entourage and see how her little party turned out. Click here to see how fun it is.
I am sad to say that I have seen this happen more often than not. What ends up happening is that they forget about you and what you want and start thinking about what type of wedding gown they would wear and pressure you into it. All of a sudden they are making you try on things you don’t want to and they start bad mouthing everything you love. With every person you bring, it just adds another opinion and the day normally ends with hurt feelings, even tears.
The funnest and happiest groups I work with are small in size and the closest in relationship to the bride.
So, here is your plan:
1. Do not tell everyone and their dog that you are going to go try on gowns. If you don’t tell them, you won’t have to have the awkward “your not invited” conversation.
2. Of course you invite the important people: mom, sisters, MAYBE your best friend (even that gets iffy) and no, your in-laws do NOT need to come. It’s actually better if they don’t. My mother in law did not like my dress when she saw it, but by then it was too late. She ended up loving it at my wedding.
3. Grandma can come to an alteration fitting after you’ve purchased it.
4. Really? The Fiancé? The only Fiancés that I have seen come are either really possessive, really opinionated or they have been dragged there by brides who want to hear how pretty they are and they are looking at the door the whole time.
5. In the end, try to bring no more than four people with you.
Follow these rules, when it comes to your Bridal Gown Shopping Entourage, and I promise
you will be as happy as this Kate Spade model.
I would be this happy if I had that purse too.